OK – so will someone tell me how it got to be January 12th? I’m sure it was only – what – a couple of days ago that I was shopping frantically for food for my family to enjoy over Christmas. I must have blinked and then I find myself with all of that food eaten (well – not quite all – I always think my son and his fiancée will eat more than they do!) and here it is, 12th January and time to write my blog.
Is the 12th of the month, - the 12th day of this New Year of 2015 - too late to write about New Year Resolutions? My friend thinks it is, my DH believes any time is time to make ‘resolutions’ - he’s been assessing and rethinking his approach to life for a few months now.
I’m inclined to agree with him. I’ve never been a great believer in the fact that a small change in the date - from 2014 to 2015 - can make such a great difference. If that change in numbers was all it took, you could have a ‘new’ period each time the date changed – a new month, a new week . . . hmm, I could go with that. I believe that any time is a time when you can pick yourself up, dust yourself off –and start all over again. The dark, cold (I’ll say that again COLD) wet days of January like the one we have here in Lincolnshire UK are perhaps not the best times to try that sort of New Year New You type of programme.
So I’ve never been one to make ‘resolutions’. Besides, 2014 was a difficult sort of year for me and some of mine. Health problems, family problems, the loss of one of my dearest friends, all contributed to making it the sort of year to get through so that I wasn’t overly sad to see the back of it. And I have to admit that I feel like being rather gentle with myself and those I love rather than putting myself through a strenuous improvement boot camp. Besides, I’m not the sort of person who like new for New’s sake. Looking back at my time as a writer, for example – as I celebrate 30 years of being published as a romance writer, I think there’s a lot to be happy about, rather than want to pull up my socks and try to push out more. More. That’s another word I’m not too fussed about right now either.
So, if I don’t do resolutions, people wonder what I put in their place. I put one word. That’s right, just one. One year the word was resolute – almost the same as resolution but not at all the same thing.
This year’s word?
It’s a word I learned from my kitten Ruby. Well, she’s not quite a kitten any more – she just had her first birthday - but her approach to life is the same. Every morning she wakes up in the same sort of mood. She looks at the dawn, at the world around her and her whiskers quiver, her tail goes up. ‘It’s a DAY!’ she seems to be saying. And she uses her day well. She finds time for the things that matter, eating food she enjoys, running around the garden, climbing trees, grooming, pouncing on her brother Charlie the Maine Coon, snuggling on to my lap when she can, and sleeping through the night curled up next to my feet. So that she’s ready to start tomorrow with that same attitude – It’s a DAY! She does the things that matter to her.
Sometimes when I look back at past years I see and feel that there
So I made a list of things I want to keep – and enjoy – in my life – friends, family, books, theatre, teaching the courses I enjoy (if there are any I don‘t then they’ll have to go. Writing – but not in the ‘must do more’ must meet this deadline – and this way - it can sometimes become. Because then I don’t enjoy writing either. (Ruby doesn’t bother much with writing. She thinks the keyboard is a very boring thing – and the new books, when they arrive are only fun because they come in a big cardboard box that she can hide and jump out onto Charlie when he walks unsuspectingly by.)
So Ruby doesn’t think she needs to become New Ruby, or that she should do more. And I think she’s right. So I’m taking my New Year life lesson from my very wise and intelligent little cat – I’m looking at each morning and thinking ‘It’s a day!’ and trying to make sure I have the best sort of balance in the way I spend it.
What about you? What word would you use to describe your approach to 2015? Or are you making lots of resolutions – how are you doing with keeping them?
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