It's official! I'm happily married! I don't have wedding pictures for you yet, but I will post them as soon as I do.
The wedding itself went well and I think everyone had a good time, which was what was most important to us. And Matt and I had fun too--more fun even than we expected to have (though honestly we didn't eat a bite and I can hardly remember the reception it was such a whirl!). It was so nice to see both of our families all gathered together in one place.
There are so many stories with weddings in them, it's impossible to even count. Ever wonder why? It's not just because weddings are great for visuals.
For writers, it's important to make private conflicts public at some point. If you can have the hero or heroine stuck in the most critical point of the story while he or she is in a public place and has a lot at stake, you'll increase the tension level.
A writer could make a scene where the hero confesses his love in private--and if the heroine rejects him then he simply skulks away with at least some of his dignity intact. Or the same writer could have the hero confess his love when it really matters--in public, at a celebration of love, in the face of wild optimism and huge risk. Then, if he's rejected, he's shattered both publicly and privately.
I think Frank Capra probably gets a lot of credit for this trope of "the big reveal at a wedding." Remember It Happened One Night (the movie, not my book of the same title)? At the end, there's a huge wedding--the heroine is about to walk down the aisle and marry the wrong man while Clark Gable is scrambling to stop things...
I love the movie It Happened One Night because it established so many strong techniques of storytelling for romance. But I think that having had my own wedding gives me a whole new understanding of the wedding as a plot device!
People have been asking, "Does it feel different to be married?" And the answer is, yes and no. Every time I look down at my wedding ring I feel all warm and happy. And when I hear Matt on the phone with someone saying "my wife and I..." I'm thrilled that he's talking about me.
My own happy ending. And luckily, there were no last-minute life changing reveals at my wedding!
QUESTION: What do you think? Are wedding scenes in movies overdone? Sick of them? Or love them?